Curt, it really easy.
Install libqt5pas-dev (assuming you are using a reasonably recent distro) on your system. That will bring in all of normal Qt5 libraries if they are not already there. And it will pull in the -dev libraries too.
Then, in Lazarus, open your project, go to Project->ProjectOptions->AdditionsAndOverides
From there you add a new build mode, buttons up the top, this facility is so useful you will probably use it more, so, maybe add a Qt5 and Qt5-debug mode ?
Select the Qt5 mode, and click the "LCLWidgetType" button", choose Value "Qt5". Save. Do the same for your Qt5-debug mode if you made one. The little chart below shows you what is set for each build mode.
Thats it. Now use the pulldown near top left of Lazarus tool bar to choose either that new Qt5 mode or default. Do a build.
Useful tricks ? I set the binary name to something different in different build modes so I can tell them apart. So, my tomboy-ng is called tomboy-ng-qt5, these get renamed during packaging.