For me the ideal would be to have the form view clear and everything else dark.
I am of exactly the same opinion, I even submitted such a proposal on GitHub, to which the author of this package replied that it can't be done, that it is not possible in this package. I don't believe it's impossible, but I'm not going to argue.
In the end I have two Lazarus installations — one (dark) for developing applications that do not use LCL (e.g. my game engine, console apps etc.), and a second (standard white) for developing LCL-based applications where I need a designer. I don't like it, but this compromise is the only solution.