First, thanks to everyone for helping out, it means a lot.
I think the X11 stuff came in earlier when i downloaded lazarus with the gtk widgets (i probably mixed these up).
Fink also downloaded a truckload of files and compiled it using GCC on the fly, took all night

I have tried to completely remove lazarus + fpc from my mac so i could do a clean install, but since im fairly new to the mac - i have no idea where/what files to delete. I had the same problem when i tried linux (where freepascal works brilliantly and out of the box i might add!).
I realize that i have some learning to do when it comes to OS structure, so sorry for that -- and thank you for the pointers on what i need to learn.
One of the core reasons i want this to work on my computer (OSX 10.6.4 / 2,4 intel core duo / 4 gig ram / macbook pro) is because i want to port over code from delphi. I have 10 years of quality classes that are buildt as pascal friendly (portable) as possible. I get frustrated when i cant even get the widget set right on the mac

This is a typical class:
http://delphimax.wordpress.com/2010/01/09/easy-rc4-encryption/Hm. Okey.
So let's say i want to completely remove lazarus and freepascal. Completely wipe it all from my system.
How exactly do i do this? I know there are some files in /shared - but where is the rest?
On another note:
I have started a group on facebook (an active one), please join to support the pascal language if you have the time: Search for "Delphi developer" in the groups section. Or see delphimax.wordpress.com