I want to take a moment to thank those who tried to help. Unfortunately after an other 6 hours of trying the suggestions here, google, searching the manual. I am still not able to actually run a very, very simple program. With seemingly no way to find the answers I need as a beginner I am moving to Xojo. I am disappointed. I really wanted to learn Pascal and Lazarus. I had tried in the past just a little here and there. This is the farthest I have gotten. Lazarus and FPC are the only tools in my reach to allow me to fiddle with software on my favorite alternative platforms. Amiga and Haiku OS. But is not to be. I want to state that I do not think that Lazarus or FPC are in anyway bad tools. They just are not for beginners. Just in case anyone is interested in my experience as a total beginner here is what I ran into.
There are just too many old examples that don't apply anymore due to changes made over the years. But, as a newbie I had no way to know this. So, I would fight with it and fight with it. There is very, very little documentation geared toward teaching someone this tool. Almost, but not all, is geared toward a person coming from Delphi who only needs to know a how Lazarus is different. I am sure the IBX manual would be of great benefit to someone who already knew the basics of how to use databases in Lazarus. The manual is very detailed on all the different controls and properties and what is there. What it doesn't have is any kind of basic beginner information on how to start. While I would never say that the developer "must" provide this it really would have been nice. In fact I downloaded and tried IBX because there was so much documentation with it that I thought I could work with it. The dev should be commended for going to that level for an open source project.
My problems with trying to figure this out do not only stem from this IBX experience. I have found that trying to venture outside of anything other than the most basic of things would result in a great deal of frustration in trying to figure them out. The Lazarus Wiki is nice, but again is mainly written with seasoned devs in mind. Yes, there are tutorials there, but I found a number of them outdated and subsequently do not work in Lazarus now. Also I found some tutorials that seemed to be for newbies but some information was left out. This made the overall experience not so good. This is not to say I am down on Lazarus. It is what it is.
OTH Xojo while being a commercial product has a great deal of material and such that is written to take a newbie and get them up and running. It is updated and the examples work. While on Lazarus a great number of the examples I tried would not. I know that documentation and tutorials for novice programmers is extremely boring and not anyone's idea of a fun thing to do for free. It does make it difficult for people me like to to get going. And Lazarus is not the only open source project with this type of issue. It is rather common in the open source world. Documentation is boring so no one wants to do it. Especially for free. Then having to maintain that documentation to make sure it is still relevant with any changes to the project over time is again a boring job that doesn't really seem to get done. It's a shame. I would have liked to do this.
Again, thanks to everyone who tried to help.