@SymbolicFrank
What you are suggesting in your original post has already been done and thrown away as not fit for purpose by MicroSoft. You are describing DCOM.
They evangelised this in the early noughties, fully scaleable run distributed, they said. PAH! Biggest POS ever going for high volume message/data flows.
Properly architected solutions for this problem area are required, which take into account the actual requirement of the problem faced. General frameworks fall over in one of many ways, and I have tested and broken/found lacking quite a few in my time.
Peter