I have tried the following and did not liked them so I'm asking if anyone knows any others
1) jitsi too much java and no portable version
2) pidgin ugly as hell too much gtk but one of the most usable solutions.
3) miranda-ng my choice so far but it got me in trouble with ICQ and many other accounts. I changed so far 4 jabber servers 2 icq accounts & a few others.
4) skype well what can I tell you after microsoft bought it, it start becoming a piece of crap, it has adds, it has no spell check, too much mobile integration, not enough chat.
a number of smaller and not worth mentioned here that never worked for me.
I'm looking for something native especially not java or .net based, it has to blend in with my windows theme and not be a smart ass and enforce the developers taste of GUI on me. Must support bbcode/html or some sort of rich text and embedding of images video etc and no I do not care about smiles although they are considered pretty basic feature that every IM should have, I really don't care if I see them in text or not.
If it has a portable version it would be a plus but it is not a absolute requirement if everything else are exceptional that is.